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Relationship Violence

What is relationship violence?

Relationship violence (dating or domestic violence) is the actual or threatened physical, sexual, verbal, emotional or economic abuse of an individual by someone with whom they have or have had an intimate relationship.

Relationship violence is a silent epidemic. It is rarely discussed and rarely seen because abusive partners frequently appear charming in public, but violent and angry behind closed doors. However, relationship abuse is the leading cause of injury to women. Although it occurs in heterosexual and homosexual relationships, the predominantly repeated pattern appears to be a male abuser and an abused female.

Does your partner or former partner:

  • Always have to be right?
  • Anger easily?
  • Hit, punch, slap, or push you?
  • Constantly criticize you for little things?
  • Force you to have sex against your will?
  • Humiliate you in front of others?
  • Stalk you or check up on you all of the time?
  • Constantly accuse you of being unfaithful?
  • Discourage your relationships with family and friends?
  • Try to control where you go, who you see, what you do?

An atmosphere of isolation and silence can sometimes support a pattern of violence. Seek help if you feel you are in an abusive relationship.

What are some warning signs that my partner may become abusive?

Your dating relationship is potentially dangerous if you…

  • Are afraid of your partner's temper and anger.
  • Feel you are responsible for your partner's feelings and behavior.
  • Have become isolated and have few friends other than your partner.
  • Give in easily to demands because you are afraid to "upset" your partner.
  • Have grown up to expect abusive behavior to be a part of your life.
  • Are afraid to end the relationship because of your partner's threats of suicide or other violence.

If you'd like to talk with a counselor about relationship issues, please call 218-726-7913 to schedule an appointment.

For more information, campus and community resources and helpful links, visit our Sexual Health Educators page.

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